Strong & Connected is a Relational Life Therapy coaching practice helping people who care deeply about their relationships learn the skills that were never taught.
Most of the people who come to us are intelligent, motivated, and care deeply about the people in their lives. What they're missing isn't effort — it's relational skills that were never taught.
They're stuck in patterns of conflict, shutdown, resentment, or emotional distance. They know something needs to change, but willpower alone isn't working. The same arguments keep surfacing. The distance keeps growing. And the harder they try with the tools they have, the more stuck things feel.
Strong & Connected exists to bridge that gap — to give people practical, teachable skills that transform how they relate to the people who matter most.
Whether you're navigating conflict as a couple, growing as a man, or supporting a teen boy, the work always comes back to the same foundation: learning to show up with honesty, accountability, and care.
Working with couples who feel stuck in repeating conflict, emotional distance, or power struggles and want real tools to change how they relate.
Also offering discernment (stay-or-go) coaching for couples who want clarity rather than pressure.
Learn About Couples CoachingWorking with men who want to be stronger, steadier, and more effective in their relationships — without losing themselves in the process.
This work is direct, practical, and designed for real life.
Learn About Men's CoachingSupporting boys ages 10–17 who are struggling emotionally, behaviourally, or relationally — and the parents who want to help them grow.
Parents are supported and involved as appropriate. The goal is to help boys grow into grounded, responsible young men.
Learn About Teen CoachingOur work is grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real. Rather than focusing on who is "right," RLT focuses on what actually works to restore connection, respect, and integrity in real relationships.
This approach is translated into clear, coaching that fits everyday life — for men, families, and couples.
Learning to stay grounded under pressure instead of reacting from old patterns of defensiveness or withdrawal. Adult-to-adult relating.
Identifying and stopping the defensiveness, control, withdrawal, or contempt that keep relationships stuck in the same place.
Shifting from intention to impact. Understanding how your behaviour lands — not just what you meant by it.
Repairing relationships through changed behaviour, not just conversation. Balancing compassion with clear expectations.
This is not about fixing people. It's about helping them show up differently.
We don't just explore feelings. We teach concrete tools for communication, emotional regulation, and conflict repair that you can use in real conversations tonight.
Nobody here is broken. We help you see the destructive cycles — the defensiveness, criticism, shutdown — and build new ones in their place.
We hold space for your experience while also being honest about what needs to change. Growth happens at the intersection of support and challenge.
The goal isn't endless sessions. It's equipping you with the relational skills to navigate life's challenges on your own — with clarity and confidence.
A former business lawyer turned relationship coach, Koby brings a rare combination of pragmatic problem-solving and deep empathy to his work with clients.
After 20 years of watching people navigate conflict in high-stakes legal settings, Koby saw the same dynamics playing out in personal relationships — defensiveness, power struggles, and communication breakdowns. He shifted his career to help people build the relational skills that actually matter.
Grounded in Relational Life Therapy and currently pursuing a Master's in Clinical Psychology, Koby works with couples, men, and teen boys throughout British Columbia, Ontario, and across Canada. His approach combines compassion with accountability — honest, direct, and always in service of real connection.
Read Koby's Full StoryIf you're considering coaching for yourself, your son, or your relationship, the best next step is a conversation.
A consultation is a no-pressure conversation to:
Share what's not working — without judgement or pressure.
Begin to see the cycles keeping you stuck — and what might shift.
Figure out whether this approach is the right fit for your situation.
Whether you're a couple stuck in old patterns, a man looking to grow relationally, or a parent concerned about your teen — the first step is a conversation.
No pressure. No obligation. Just clarity.